If you're like me, you grew up watching Hollywood movies in which the general theme is "Love conquers all." The Stars fell in love, then they had a little misunderstanding and broke up, but you knew that by the end of the movie he would win her back by coming to her work with a hundred flower arrangements, singing to her outside her window, calling on the phone until she agrees to talk to him, or punching the annoying new guy in the eye just to show her how much he loves her. Then she would come to her senses and fall back in love with him.

This story sounds wonderful, and I admit I'm a sucker for a good love story just as much as the next guy...

Now hold on just one minute!

Reality check please!

If this plot sounds a little like your life, except that you didn't fall back in love, and you actually find it a little creepy, and he won't stop, then you may be a victim of stalking.

There is a fine line between romantic pursuit and stalking behavior. The only person who can say when that line has been crossed, is the person being pursued. What one person calls romantic, another may call harassing.


On this website I'm going to give examples of common stalking behavior, some of which you may be seeing in your own life. I'm going to explain the applicable laws in the least boring manner that I can. And, I'm going to outline some strategies that you can implement in your own life to stop the stalking and give you back your life.

People who are being stalked often don't do anything to help themselves because they feel overwhelmed and don't know where to start. Some feel that no matter what they do, the stalking will continue, so they don't do anything in hopes that it will just go away. This is exactly what your stalker wants, for you to feel helpless. The truth is that it probably wont just stop on its own, you will have to take action to stop it.

Don't get discouraged, most of my strategies are simple and you can begin immediately.

My ideas are not just pie-in-the-sky notions that only sound good on paper, they are actual strategies that people have used to stop their stalker. I have to admit that I am not the one who thought them all up. They have come to me from fellow detectives and from victims who did what they could to stop the harassment, and their tactics worked for them. As you read through the strategies you will discard some, but some of them will fit your circumstances.

If you have used other strategies that worked, drop me an email on the "contact us" page. I will include them so others can find peace as well.

I intend to add more content to this website, especially when I get questions and suggestions from readers, so take a moment to bookmark this site to your favorites, and come back once in a while to see what's new.